So I met this guy online, super cool, very good looking, outgoing and loves life. We started talking and became fast friends. He’s really into the gym, so not my life. We talk all the time and seem to have a lot in common. He’s such a cool guy, never negative and always happy. He calls me Miss Tiff and I call him Danner…how cute! We seem to speak in a different way than with others in the dating world. It was easy and light, no pressure and always positive. I really don’t see an interest in dating on either side, its just nice to have good conversations with someone so positive.
I told him about this other guy I went on a date with that I am really not interested in. He gave me some good tips on how to say “I’m really not interested!” and it seemed to work! We really like getting each other opinions on dating and having the other person’s perspective. We talk occasionally but he has now mentioned he has a girlfriend so I am going to back off as I respect their relationship.
Well summer has come and gone and Dan messaged me. He’s back on the market and seems to be showing a lot of interest in Miss Tiff. I really haven’t thought much of it because I really don’t see me as his type.
September 6th, 2014
I am on my way to meet my friend Dan, we are going for breakfast to an Egg Smart. This is the first time we will be meeting and it will be nice to meet the face behind the phone. Two friends, great convo and breakfast…what could be better?
Breakfast was great, we spoke about my career, his schooling, my daughter Capri, our families, what we think is in our future and everything in between. Breakfast ended and I was on my way to meet a guy for a fun date down town. Dan was adamant about nothing coming of this date because apparently he knew me so well! (That’s the last date I went on because shortly after, Danner and Miss Tiff started dating, but we are not at the point in the story yet!)
I told him tonight that I am off to Jamaica with my bestie and he said to have a great time! We chatted each night while in Jamaica and I was able to fill him on the adventures we had for the day. By the end of the week my bestie said “Tiff, he totally likes you” and I denied it and said we are just good friends, “He’s just Danner”. So apparently I “Fell in love in Jamaica” (Not really) but while sitting in the airport waiting to leave I messaged Dan telling him that I met a boy!!! He played it off cool but deep down he was jealous (So he tells me later).
I am home now and missing the sun. Dan is messaging me about my day and asking how it is being home with Capri. I tell him I’m sad and missing Jamaica but love catching up with my daughter. Dan messaged back saying he missed me a lot while I was away and actually wanted to tell me something. At that moment my blood pressure sky rocketed…is he going to say what I think he is going to say? Yep…he totally did….he said he likes me and needs me to know before it was too late and I am snagged by another dude.
Wait …..WHAT! Dan likes me? Who would have thought!
After getting over the shock and of course digesting this new reality with my bestie I decided to meet Dan for dinner and a movie.
October 22nd, 2014
We had our first official date tonight, what a guy. He even opened my car door for me! Again, I see a difference in Dan, no pressure, just wants to spend time with me, is happy and people notice. It’s so refreshing to see his outlook on life and his love of life’s journey.
We have been on a couple dates, they have all been really fun, he seems like a great guy. He really treats me with respect and always has my needs ahead of his own. My guards are coming down and I can see a future with him. Its hard for me to grasp how much he likes me. We shall see how this turns out!
My guards are fully down and Dan and I are officially dating. That progression seemed fast but I think that old saying goes “when you know you know”
Dan and I have great conversations and he loves to tell me about his time at the gym each day but he has never once mentioned setting up a meal plan for me, taking me to the gym, wanting to change me or my appearance. He loves me for me and I appreciate that very much. I have done this weight lose thing on my own for years, I don’t need a trainer, and besides they are so expensive.
November 22nd, 2014
I finally let go of my pride and asked Dan for a meal plan. I have lost 35lbs on my own over the last couple of years but obviously this guy knows what he is doing to look as good as he does. So why not try it out.
It took a lot for me to admit I needed and wanted his help. I had to work through a lot of self-talk and emotions to say, “Ya I’ll take your help”. I’m hoping with everything in me that this works this time. I have struggled with weight all my life, maybe this is finally the key.
Well, here’s hoping!
PS. He says he fell in love with me at breakfast
This is just the first journal entry of my own fitness journey. Stay tuned as I tap into the emotional battles I have faced over the last 6 months, the painful self-talk I have had to change and the sweat I have pour out to get where I am today. I wanted you all to know the history behind Dan and I and our relationship as I feel it’s foundational to my fitness journey. Without him, I would not be where I am today.
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These pictures are from when we first started dating Halloween night and November 2014