JUST A SLIVER

​As I have been contemplating my relationship with hunger over the last week I have been trying to finger out my belief system on food.


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How do I view food?
What do I love about it?
Why do I love it?
Why is it a daily battle?
Why don’t people understand my struggle?
How do I change my views?
How do I change my habits?
 
This blog was inspired when we were invited to dinner at my parents house with the couple we stay in Africa with. My mother served cheesecake and I debated having a piece but guess what…I gave in. Later that night Dan said with enthusiasm “I’m so proud of you that you didn’t eat the cheese cake” and I quickly said “but I did and I was sitting right beside you!” We had a good laugh but it brought on a good discussion as to why I felt the need to have a piece and I couldn’t let it pass me by.
 
What I concluded is that I feel like I am missing out if I don’t have a piece. I don’t get dessert often so if I don’t have it then I don’t know when I will get to have desert next. I just can’t miss out…I just can’t.
 
I want to get to the point were dessert isn’t even on my radar but I know that I need to do this in stages. I have decided that going forwards I will help myself to “Just a Sliver” and being satisfied with that portion. I have changed my mental game and rapidity tell myself that I will be happy with just a sliver so when the day comes and cheese cake is served I will be content and fulfilled.
 
Once I have become a master of the sliver, I will move on to omitting dessert all together. I know it will take time to get to that point but one day it will happen. As I was speaking with Dan about this concept and writing this blog he was so “black and white”. He said I shouldn’t be having dessert at all if I wanted to hit my goals. After we continued to speak, he realized he hasn’t walked my path and doesn’t fully understand my battle. He apologized for his black and whiteness and respected my new path and commitment to changing this area.
 
What areas are the ones that hold you back from reaching your goals? Maybe dessert isn’t a challenge for you? Maybe it’s something entirely different. I encourage you to search yourself and figure out what holds you back from reaching your goals and create small steps to change those habits.
 
Once you do figure it out, leave a comment below as I would love to hear about your success.
 
Tiffany Ashmeade

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